Funny thing that we all do in our teens through thirties is look for our match by searching for the perfect soul mate. According to definition: A soulmate is somebody with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, and/or compatibility. A related concept is that of the twin flame or twin soul – which is thought to be the ultimate soulmate, the one and only other half of one's soul, for which all souls are driven to find and join (Wiki)
I see, the interesting thing I discovered as I also searched for my soulmate is that: First, you don't really want to be with someone exactly like you because you spend your entire life running away from yourself, why try to find a duplicate? Second, usually opposites tend to be the perfect match with all the items listed above because they tend to compliment who you are and add to the variation hence they complete you, making the "soul" perfect.
Well after spending most of my life comparing my mate to myself and trying desperately to match our interests and desires and so forth, I realized that in the end, it doesn't matter. Really, who cares. Mates or partners are there just so you don't talk to yourself all day long. Having the same interest isn't all that important because otherwise you live in a cocoon all your life, not experiencing anything different than what you both are used to. Whether you are compatible sexually has no great significance either because after a while however perfect the soulmate match is, it all gets old.
So before you go searching for your "soulmate", remember one thing, find the mate that you can create your own soul with and you will find true happiness in life.
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